From what you have said, you have a good heart and once you become attached, you don't let go easily. I am the same way. The only thing you can do is know your own worth and change your own actions. For starters, narcissism seems to be a big issue with this guy. He knows the game he is playing and is incredible At it. Simply put, he is stroking his own ego. Every time you text him first or initiate any conversation. ....... he wins. And anytime you get tired of the bs, he know that all he has to do is grovel just for a little while before you forgive him and it's back to his terms....... this is a never ending circle. And it won't stop until you make it. I have dealt with this same issue with my husband. ....... I have finally put my foot down and told him that I'm not his mother, so I won't be taking care of his every little need.... and also that I am just as important as he is ..and if he doesn't like it, there is the door. It's not an easy thing to do, but very needed. They want to blame you for all their problems...... but guess what.... it's not your fault in the least! It's their own job to get help and fix themselves if they want to.