I would discuss all of these worries and concerns with your new therapist, and just not mention the last one's name. You can even say why you're not revealing the name. I do understand all of your fears and doubts regarding therapists. I feel like therapists too often try to force me to erase my personality and turn me into someone I'm just not and never will be. And if I don't agree with a therapist's approach I feel like I'm not allowed to say so or I will be regarded as aggressive and cynical and a "difficult patient. I'm in the process of choosing a new therapist too. Good luck to you!!
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Originally Posted by virgill
Hi everyone
Hopefully you can assist me. I made appointments with two new therapists today. I intend to probably meet both of them to see how it feels.
I am a bit anxious about this ( and funnily or not my issue has to fo with returning anxiety).
Anyway I had a therapist in the past who helped me lot and was my go to person in times of crisis. It ended pretty badly and left me feeling vulnerable, hurt and angry. I had been seeing her for over two years and trusted her very well. Anyway we had a in my opinion a minor confrontarion she got mad and fired me. Now I am terrified of making my self vulnerable to another T. I am afraid of allowing my self to give that much trust to someone who is seeing me as a professional.
I need to feel secure enough to be allowed to show doubts and disappointment towards the T. It is very important for me to feel like I am not giving to much authority to the T. I dont know whether this makes any sense but if you can give me some advice about how to deal with this I would be grateful.
Another thing that worries me is that I need to talk about how I feel about the way my last therapist treated me in this final session. I live in a fairly small town and I know there is a high likelyhood that they will know each other.
What should I do ?
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