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Old May 20, 2015, 02:24 PM
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Originally Posted by StuckinRut View Post
Hi s4ndm4n2006, thanks a lot for all your help. It is very much appreciated. Yes, I agree with you; it is a strange and worrying statement. I hadn't considered the flip side, that's a very helpful perspective. It's true I wouldn't be comfortable to point that out. But I'm quite prepared to confront them and have done so on many occasions. However my experience is that it is not possible to have a calm and rational disagreement with my parents. Instead things rapidly turn into a one sided argument. Also they appear to be incapable of accepting that they could have any faults. So now I feel it is better to instead deprive them of their power by not reacting, even slightly, to their provocations.
your approach is entirely understandable and possibly just as effective. another suggestion is that you continue to find your independence and ability to be assertive when necessary and in time I believe you'll be in a place where you'll be able to truly stand up for yourself. practice with less confrontational people and in your own life
Thanks for this!
StuckinRut