I agree....totally inappropriate. Learned NEVER to do anything that could put me in a bad place no matter what the other person is choosing to want to do....I have to be in control of ME & my own life & don't want to get caught up in any soap opera messes that other people want to make out of their lives.

After my oral surgery, I wasn't able to drive to the appointments at the university. The pastor of our church offered to drive me to the appointments......His wife can be a bit challenging to be around but was so glad when she offered for us to ALL go to my appointment & then out to lunch afterward (soup & chocolate shake for me). I introduced them to Trader Joe's in the city & then the next time we did lunch & did some shopping at another store I really like going to. Much more comfortable of a situation as it doesn't give anyone anything to talk about & it's just much wiser to not put oneself into a situation that could end up creating a mess in anyone's life especially yours.