you have probably tried this, but i like talking and telling my husband(well used to) what i like and dont like. be totally relaxed, it's easy to think before hand you are dreading it or are not going to enjoy it, feel and think about what he is doing, i like to watch his face when he is getting escited etc, mosrtly talk about what you like and even fantasising helps sometimes. hope this helps

jinnyann

welcome by the way, sorry lol xxxxxxx