SecretGarden, I am sorry about the news of your Brother-In-Law. ((((hugs))))

It is sounding like you are focusing on therapy to the exclusion of your "real life" and want to develop the latter more? I think therapy should complement our real lives but not come to dominate too much. Sure, it's important but the goal should not be to have good therapy, but to have therapy that helps us have a good life. Or something like that. Speaking for myself, of course....

I'm wondering if maybe the emphasis in your psychotherapy is not aligned with this goal? You are seeing a psychiatrist for therapy rather than a therapist and so the approach may not be the one best suited for personal growth. Do you know what I mean? Perhaps someone with a more humanistic bent would be more helpful? I know my T says his role is to help me develop the whole person, my whole self, and this includes something like 6 elements (which I can't remember of course), something like the physical, emotional, spiritual, artistic, etc. etc. These are all aspects he can help me with, and we haven't gotten to all of them yet. But there are so many areas I can grow and develop in, and T can help me explore these things and grow. Do you do any of this in your therapy? Sometimes people can really focus on one thing in therapy but a broader approach might also be more helpful. Like instead of focusing on abuse issues from childhood (or whatever), one could spend time in therapy working to develop a satisfying and fulfilling artistic direction (or whatever). Do you know what I mean? See if you can work on getting that balance in therapy. A T with underpinings in the human potential movement might be helpful. And might help get away from the "too much psych" emphasis with its roots in your mother's profession.

Edited to add: here are the six areas of personal development (from transpersonal psychology):
intellectual, emotional, spiritual, physical, creative, and relational