I'm kind of in the same situation as you, only reversed. I do realize that my wife works quite a bit, usually averaging about 10 hours of overtime a week here recently, and she does pay the bills, but it seems like I do everything else. Or, the things that she does do, she starts and never finishes (unfinished laundry, leaving the vacuum sitting in the middle of the floor, etc). Sometimes I really feel unappreciated.

As far as intimacy, our relationship has never been based on sex, but I do feel like I need physical relations (and I enjoy it, of course). She doesn't feel good about her body, and I've tried many things over the years to help, but it has never worked.