It seems like you should discuss this with her and be honest and upfront with your feelings of wanting more in the relationship and not liking the friendship in how she wishes it should be. If you are not happy with the status quo of the current relationship and how she defines it, you can either negotiate or leave. It's like that with all relationships. All relationships are a give and take situation that are defined by each other. It isn't about what we think is a right or wrong way to be friends, it is what you both want and need.
It sounds like being her friend, in the way she wants, isn't making you happy. But do I think it comes down to you are wishing for more and looking for any clues she feels the same way about you and if not, you are not interested in being a friend and are looking for away out of it. Unrequited love hurts. If you are as good as friends as you say, you should talk to her about this honestly. It isn't just what she wants, what you want is as important.
Since she isn't available for dating or for anything other than a friendship, why not open your schedule up a little more for some dating?
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Originally Posted by dreamshatterer
Ok, how do you feel about this? Do you think this is kind of odd? She feels like if I was to date someone that I should tell them about her because we are so close. So lets say I'm dating someone and everything is good but she doesn't like it that i'm talking to my best friend everyday. My best friend feels like I shouldn't date that person because she should be able to trust me. But how I look at it is like it doesn't mean you and I can stop being friends we're just going have to have to slow down a little bit but she just feels like no, you don't have to date them. She say she would do the same for me.
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