jaofao,
I have been really struggling with this concept for as long as I can remember. I have had a few really difficult periods in life, where kids were just plain mean (for the heck of it) and I was scarred.
I've never grown inner confidence. Regardless of how many men and women have encouraged me, I simply find myself unable to accept compliments. I cannot believe it and I always look for alterior motives! It is a sad place to be in life.