My T has urged me several times to get him into couples counseling with me. It's not going to happen. He believes we can work it out ourselves. It's not going too badly. And it's actually complicated because I have such a history - the whole thing is messed up. I can't make any decisions until I work through my past abuse and get my head back on straight.

Right now, I'm just trying to make it all work until I know what to do.
Sigh.