i think you should seperate for awhile, see what happens. absence makes the heart grow fonder. if you are both not on the same page with this relationship,it is doomed. you need to let each other know the truth about each other. then you can get back on with your lives. you are in limbo here. please let this person know you can't take it anymore if they are going to continue behaving like this, it sounds like you did so already though keep us infomed and good luck