UPDATE -

So, my girlfriend is now my fiance, and all of the initial troubles we ran into with communication took work, but we finally communicate on the same level. I'm madly in love with her, and am no longer insecure about how she feels. I know she's madly in love with me. We see a counselor together once a month or so, but it's less for fixing problems and more for figuring out how to make our already great relationship even better.

Biggest problem now. She had her two kids every other week, I have mine every other 3 days. Now, she's got hers all the time. It's hard to handle a household with constant noise and chaos. Her sister lives with us and watches the kids during the day, but at night, when we'd like to have time to ourselves, she's understandably worn out from watching them all day. Oh well, it's so much better than when I was worried about the foundation of our relationship, and whether I moved too soon from my ex-wife!

Just thought I would post a followup!