If you decided therapy just wasn't helpful for you.... how did you terminate? Did you give your T notice? Did you Email/write a letter? Did you just cancel? Did you just show up at a session and decide it was going to be your last?

A lot of you know I've been considering this awhile, and I want to make sure it "feels right" when/if I do. Actually, I think the question for me is when. T knows I'm unsure of my future in therapy with her, and I know she won't agree with my decision if I do terminate.

It's an absolutely heartbreaking decision, and one I don't wish to take lightly, so I'm just trying to coast until I know for sure it's what I need to do. By coasting, I guess I mean I'm going to my sessions, hoping my trust will just miraculously return and I will immediately feel connected again.

I'm not asking IF I should terminate, I'm just asking for stories of how people have done it. Despite our differences, my T does mean a great deal to me, and I don't want to leave on bad terms.

Part of me considered just taking a break.....and possibly not coming back. But I would want some closure for both of us. We HAVE worked hard this past year.