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Originally Posted by uncertain mom
Thank you, that makes so much sense. Now that I think of it, there a lot of things that fit the trying to control theory. And you are right, she does know. At this point I am so upset I am not going to be saying much to her, I just don't want the attitude or the fighting, I have had enough today. But I will take your advise. I am going to try not telling her what to do and see what happens. Thanks ..... Tunnel --->Light ! Hoooray!
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Nicoleflynn gave you good advice, but I would also talk to my daughter and tell her:
She
cannot be permitted to cause you to lose your job.
That she is old enough and intelligent enough to get ready for school on time.
That she will get a fifteen minutes to go warning (I'd set a timer)
if she likes; if she chooses not to have the timer set, then she is STILL TO BE ON TIME. There will be no more arguing, fighting, or crying about it.
I assume you are taking her to school? When she is not on time,
leave without her. She can walk to school, or bike to school, or perhaps take the city bus? (have her options ready along with all directions and 1 bus fare, etc. laid away in the cupboard).
Tell her on the day when she drags her feet,
you will go to work, and you will call the school telling them to expect her. So you will KNOW if she does not show up, and what time she DOES show up.
I am assuming she has a reliable alarm clock; that she does not have barriers to sleeping well; that she is getting enough sleep; and that she has some fun in her life otherwise.
Weeks where she has done as expected deserve a little treat: a favorite dinner, and a whole month could result in a manicure or something similar.