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Originally Posted by wa(o)rrior
Hi
Am glad for your son to have such a supporting father. What he is going thru is his inability to manage stress in his job. his mind can't cope up with the pressure. so it starts to slowly build a set of reasons to convince himself that he is not fit for the job. it also wounds his pride if someone has to terminate him so he would rather quit on his own as it relives him of emotional pain.
the problem in today's world is everybody expects you to work hard and be smart irrespective of stress that it takes. so kindly explain to your son to take it slowly. explain his health is more important. make him take less stressful job if he can't handle the pressure.
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Thanks so much for your thoughtful reply wa(o)rrior! The pressure you speak of is indeed self-induced. He also rails on and on about how others don't do their jobs and if they expect him to work they better "step it up." I think both are defense mechanisms against his nervousness and fear of failure. They are all excuses he can use to quit when he feels the pressure is too great. The trouble is that he also feels bad when he gets fired or leaves so he is never in a more contented place.
I feel like I am slowly putting some of these pieces together and kind folks like you have been very helpful here, so thank you again for the reply, you have no idea how much I appreciate it!