Then you have to accept that you're not going to get anywhere with those issues. Successful processing doesn't necessarily mean you're going to like the outcome, just that you accept it, grieve, and let it go.

Yeah, easier said than done, and it simply may not be possible to do this with your current T (if you do choose to go ahead and terminate), particularly because it seems she is not accepting of your wish to terminate.

Eta: My previous T did a proper termination with me, but I wasn't ready for it. The situation was such that neither of us had much of a choice though, and she really did feel that she was not the best therapist for me. She was probably right, much as I hate to admit it...