I came across a good article on line which I made my husband read, sorry I can't remember where to find it but I searched something like
It might also help to ask him for priorities for these joined discuss yours and agree goals to set yourself each day that are manageable,e.g. One task for one day as thinking of everything is overwhelming and if you do one thing you can praise yourself for that achievement. I hope he can learn to accept you as you are even if he can't understand. It is impossible to fully understand depression if you haven't had to live with it.