She's definitely having issues with losing me, she's told me, and I explained to her very sincerely that I'm not going anywhere. I'm just growing up, that's all. When my girlfriend and I split up, her first instinct was to bash her, even though I was not particularly bashing her. I stuck up for my girlfriend, and I think my sister noticed and backed off a bit. I explained to her that I need her to accept whoever I choose into my family into her family, because really... she's all I have right now. I have no parents, grandparents, or children. My dad was an only child, and my mother had one brother who is a complete %#@&#!. My father hated him because he always hated my father for moving my mother and us to a different state 20 years ago and could never let it go.

I can't have that happen to us. I can't let my sister do what my uncle did. I want Thanksgivings and vacations and birthday parties to be shared together throughout our lives, with our kids playing, and the four of us hanging out together. The week my dad died, and my girlfriend took a week off of work and a week away from her daughter to spend with me, to spend with us, my sister was SO GREAT to her. We all got along, we laughed and cried, we cheered each other up. It was great. Then, all of a sudden, when I had a really busy time with juggling my work and relationship and couldn't call as much, she started getting bitter towards my girlfriend. I guess I just expected more out of my sister than that. I still think she considers me a kid who needs someone else to make decisions for him rather than an adult, and it angers me so.

She did this same thing with my ex, kept her at a distance, but I wasn't as into my ex as I am this one so it didn't really bother me. So at least I know it's not my girlfriend, it's my sister. I just wish she could learn to lighten up. She never seems happy anymore. She used to be full of life. I hope this child changes that.

Thanks for all of your comments.