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Originally Posted by Brown Owl
She does seem to have a casual attitude to continuity. I have never had a T cancel on me. The Ts I have seen have believed that the regularity of the sessions is important and gives a stability to the process. My Ts have always considered that breaks have an impact and they always gave a lot of notice about breaks and discussed them.
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My T doesn't feel this way. Or maybe only when it's convenient. She canceled and/or rescheduled practically the entire month of February due to problems at home, (and I see her twice a week, not once) and it was very hard on me. I blame that on our rupture now. I KNOW had that situation never happened, our rupture wouldn't have either. So that changed my life, not for the better, either. My T knew I was having a hard time, I needed some consistency, predictability, stability.... and she said something about this being a lesson in life. That life in general does not have these things, so her canceling sessions was good practice to learn to accept that. Um, ok. Well, I accepted it, but I do not accept that our entire therapeutic relationship changed because of it. I wish I could "re-do" February.
ETA: I DO agree with her on her theory about life not being predictable, etc. But I think life is where I can learn that, not during my intense therapy sessions, when it's convenient for her. I thought the same as someone mentioned above. If she didn't work for herself, she most likely wouldn't have been able to do this as often as she did. But, that was a very rough time for her...I know that. Although I probably shouldn't, eh?