I am concerned that he hadn't said a word about being a father, until you were on a date, which needed to be about getting to know more about one another in an interests, and less serious manner. One, what type of father is he, not oozing with pride? Two, there's a fine line between saying things aren't smooth between the ex and himself and vilifying to the point that he portrays himself as victimized and a hapless victim. Being tricked into pregnancy involves more or less statements that she'd said she was barron and she literally couldn't have kids and surprise than not using birth control. Menstrual cycles can still be monitored and used as a medically free method towards being more responsible. Plus it's hypocritical to say religion prevents use of b.c. when having unwed sexual activity...