Imo, people are missing the point of the promises. Its the intention behind them that needs to be internalized by the client at the time the promise is made. Like clap your hands to make tinkerbell fly or whatever. Then that part of you heals, and you move on to the next developmental task. Its not - you get to eighth grade and ask for a promise from first grade to be fulfilled - we will color every day! You are past that promise now. Sorry if this sounds like blaming the client, thats not how i mean it - there is a miscommunication in what the promise meant to both parties.