I knew when it happened at three........i didnt know that I didn't have to let him do that, until my elderly neighbour who was bed bound called me in and told me that I didnt have to do those things. I love elderly ppl because she gave me permission to run away etc (((((hugs))))) to all the above. . Not so sure how helpful this is.....but luv anyway from Jjulia. .........triggering now......suddenly felt very chilly.....never mind.....