At first, I thought we could work it out ourselves. Then, as I worked with my T, I came to undersand that a mediator would be able to help us communicate better, help us change what needed to be changed by forcing the follow up questions. Maybe what I'm hearing myself say is that a couples counselor would help me to say the things I am afraid to say and help him to say the truth about what he is feeling. He has a problem with that. I believe he is sincere when he is saying something but doesn't follow through mostly, or is saying what he want to believe, which is not necessarily true.