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Originally Posted by hankster
Imo, people are missing the point of the promises. Its the intention behind them that needs to be internalized by the client at the time the promise is made. Like clap your hands to make tinkerbell fly or whatever. Then that part of you heals, and you move on to the next developmental task. Its not - you get to eighth grade and ask for a promise from first grade to be fulfilled - we will color every day! You are past that promise now. Sorry if this sounds like blaming the client, thats not how i mean it - there is a miscommunication in what the promise meant to both parties.
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Exactly because things do change over time t shouldn't make promises that clearly are unreasonable.
This is a professional relationship we are discussing. Not the same as two lovers promised to always be there and then one fell out of love. It is a professional making a promise to a client that isn't even possible to achieve.
If you want to use school analogy: will never leave you and we will be coloring some pages every Monday is clearly not the same thing.
When I tell my students that we always start a class with XYZ activity, even the most naive child would understand I mean for the duration of the class not that 50 years from now I am on my death bed and still will be doing that activity with them.
In fact even when I promise we will do XYZ activity I specify that there are circumstances we won't do the activity ( half day or before the test etc).
This t made ridiculous promise. I personally don't need t to always be there and have no issue with t abandoning me as I am not attached. So I would just laugh if she said something that stupid. But if t knows client is attached saying such things is just evil
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