That raises the question - what if the t was speaking to your "inner child" in making that promise so she expected you to take it figuratively, but you dont believe in or dong understand the inner child concept, so you took it literally. Should a t NOT speak to your inner child, even though it seems very present to her? Or would you rather she join you in your denial of it? Talking rationally to you about it just brings up resistance. -- all this is why i am not a t! I think its hard enough breaking through unconscious resistance - conscious "talkable, logical" resistance makes me even more crazy!