Hi friend

went thru your article and wanted to share my insight. in the above listed examples every time you said your feelings she was paraphrasing with the terminology. it's actually a right approach from their perspective and it shows that they have understood your feeling and give it a terminology which actually positively affirms your point has been taken. your subconscious mind reads this mild cues from the therapist infact it actually expects these. your conscious mind may feel odd when they keep parroting things back to you, but its a message intended to your subconscious mind.

and people do slip up sometimes as in your case when she said stuff about thinking you still had contact with your friend. maybe she was overwhelmed and you know how draining it can be for them listening to so many people's trouble and issues all day long. of course we pay a ransom and expect them to do their duty properly but sometimes you need to cut them some slack, after all they are also human beings.