I'm not keen to get married or for that matter to have children. My parents remain together but my mother was quite unhappy for many years. I feel it's important to have a lot in common and to share a strong bond otherwise there's a danger of becoming one of those couples who go to dinner but have nothing to say to each other all night. I think some counselling might help, both for you and myself. In my view it's important to take time to get to know someone and live together for a while prior to getting married. Living together puts a certain strain on a relationship and the dynamics of the relationship change to accommodate this new situation. During this time also you can make a more accurate assessment of the persons character.