When I went into therapy a year ago, I questioned it myself. I didn't think it was possible to change my thinking and feel better. Keep in mind, it can take a LONG time. I'm still in therapy, and I don't think, as far as my negative feelings towards myself and other things, I'm anywhere close to being "healed." But I have seen some changes in myself since starting therapy, I'm more open, more blunt. I'm saying things as I see them and willing to tell people what's on my mind, even if it's not good. My dad is currently living with us. He was whining about being hungry the other day. The old me would have catered to him. The new me just blew him off somewhat by saying "well make yourself something to eat then!" May sound harsh, but I live with three males and it's trying at times. They all look to me for the answers, and it drains me. So now, I say it like it is...and think they'll even turn out better for it. So you may notice change, just not in where you thought, yet. Give it a try. I suggest talking to your T about boundaries right off the bat, so you know where you both sit.