My T is great...and we are making progress. But I am having an issue where we don't agree. I don't see where she is coming from. Worse, I don't know what to do about the problem:

My mom died about five years ago. I lived with her and took care of her the best I could until she was admitted to a hospice hospital and died.

At first after her death, I would get awakened hearing my mother call my name- urgently- like something is wrong. It sounds like she is calling me like she needs my help. This has happened many times. Eventually, that stopped, but I began to get awakened with feelings of being poked and touched. No one is there. When I look around at the time, I notice my dog is sleeping, undisturbed.

These events stopped for a while but currently I am being awakened by the touching again. I have told my therapist all about it. My therapist wants to me to think of these events as "reassuring" and "comforting." But they don't feel that way! These events startle me out of sleep and freakin' scare me. I have told that to T, too. I thought "we feel what we feel?" Now it seems she wants me to pretend I'm not scared? Pretend the touch waking me at 3am is comforting?
Recently, the touch woke me feeling like someone was feeling my forehead for fever...but the touch was ice cold!

I'm sorry this sounds so messed up.

1) Has anyone experienced anything similar after a loved one has passed away?
2) Am I missing T's point of view because I just don't understand it.