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Originally Posted by precaryous
My T is great...and we are making progress. But I am having an issue where we don't agree. I don't see where she is coming from. Worse, I don't know what to do about the problem:
My mom died about five years ago. I lived with her and took care of here the best I could until she was admitted to a hospice hospital and died.
At first after her death, I would get awakened hearing my mother call my name- urgently- like something is wrong. It sounds like she is calling me like she needs my help. This has happened many times. Eventually, that stopped, but I began to get awakened with feelings of being poked and touched. No one is there. When I look around at the time, I notice my dog is sleeping, undisturbed.
These events stopped for a while but currently I am being awakened by the touching again. I have told my therapist all about it. My therapist wants to me to think of these events as "reassuring" and "comforting." But they don't feel that way! These events startle me out of sleep and freakin' scare me. I have told that to T, too. I thought "we feel what we feel?" Now it seems she wants me to pretend I'm not scared? Pretend the touch waking me at 3am is comforting?
Recently, the touch woke me feeling like someone was feeling my forehead for fever...but the touch was ice cold!
I'm sorry this sounds so messed up.
1) Has anyone experienced anything similar after a loved one has passed away?
2) Am I missing T's point of view because I just don't understand it.
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I did not have it with a loved one but I lived in a haunted house for a summer and had similar experiences. Being awakened by someone yelling "wake up!!" Being poked, patted, prodded etc until I woke up and then continuing. The cold. It was terrifying. I think your T is WAY wrong. If you haven't had it happening you can't understand. I used to sneak away to our local 24 hr grocery and try to nap in the rest room!! I could not sleep there. I can't believe I lasted the whole summer. Rent was cheap though.
When staying with a friend I woke up and saw a woman cAlling his name. He slept through it but in the morning he said the woman I described sounded very much like his recently deceased grandmother.
I think it's wrong for your T to invalidate your experience.
FYI the most effective thing if it IS a spirit who cares about you ( theory being they may be confused or not clearly seeing into our world or clumsy like a 3 year old with a crayon in their new spirit body) is to wait for a time when you sense the presence and say loudly and cleaRly. " what you are doing is scaring me. Everything is ok. I am OK and you can go on with your journey. If you have a message for me please find a different way to tell it to me" or something like that. They may not know they are doing anything wrong.