That sounds like what is called a "non-apology." I hear what you describe an "I'm sorry" with an extra serving of didacticism. It's a confusing mixed message: I made a mistake, but it's your fault for believing me.

[quote=notwithhaste;4462608 She says that she screwed up when she made that promise to me.

But she also says that I need to learn to accept that these things happen in relationships.[/quote]