A major reason I quit therapy with my therapist is because she thought that her job was just to 'reflect' things. So she spent the whole session doing what you've described, rephrasing what I'd said and repeating it back to me like a mad budgie.

When I pointed out that it wasn't helpful, she became very confused and asked what response I wanted from her. It completely floored her when I said I wanted her to have a reaction that came from her and wasn't mediated by what she thought I wanted, ie, an actual conversation.

She said that would be intrusive. Uh. Okay.

Fact of the matter is, you can't deal with any serious issues with someone just parroting things back at you to 'validate' you. There are a lot of problems (which I experience) that I don't need validation for. I need, you know, actual constructive help from someone who is capable of doing more than repeat my words.

I terminated with her and felt nothing, which pretty much confirmed to me that the 'reflective' model of therapy not only fails to be effective, it also fails to create any kind of real connection (and I'm repeatedly informed that connection is important in therapy.)