Sounds mean, but I would have rather my T died than abandon me. Least then I wouldn't be mad at my T and would instead be mad at God. I could hold onto all my good memories w/o them being tainted by betrayal and pain.

And yes, my T qualified "abandonment". She was well aware of my definition and agreed to not do it, and still she did. And in an effort to justify her actions, she changed the definition of abandonment.

To be abandoned is worse than death, at least for me.

And promises should be kept unless extenuating circumstances change the situation. I keep all my promises. I keep my word. I kept my promises in my relationship with my T...