Carrie,

I need to learn the same concept myself, but it isn't selfish to put your healing and well-being and happiness first. You know how they tell you in the safety instructions when you ride on an airplane to put on your own air mask first? If you don't get your air mask on and make sure that you can function, then you can't be any good to anybody else, no matter how much you want to be. If you can't be happy and love yourself, you can't make anyone else happy or love them. I totally relate to feeling trapped. There are things you can't do when you have a family, and I have a lot of the same thoughts that you have expressed. I guess we just need to find a way to do the things that would make us happy, or at least find a compromise.
I'm so glad that you are feeling better.
-Wendy