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Old May 25, 2015, 05:22 PM
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Originally Posted by Yearning0723 View Post
but I already know that "my anxiety went down when I stopped talking to her" = "my anxiety is situational,"
I was surprised when I read her interpretation, that your anxiety going down "there" meant the anxiety was situational! I would not have known/thought of that and how it makes a difference if it is situational or not?

I think that you did know might be getting in your way? She's confirming what you already knew but, does she know you know it? It would have been a revelation to me if my T had said that and/or I might have picked up on the "situational" and asked, "why does that make a difference?" or otherwise explored what she had to say so it would have been a fruitful comment for her to have made. In your case though, that particular comment you already knew so it is just a confirmation for you that she's "following" what you are saying, is on the same page.

Some of the repeating what we say is to help us learn to really listen to what we are saying and how we are saying it and what effect it has on other people, turn us into a "third" person in the room, our listening ear as if we too are listening to the conversation. This then allows things like, "Situational? What's that? What other kinds of anxiety are there? Do I show other kinds?"

If I were you I would bring up the issue of not knowing whether she is just repeating stuff by rote and not really understanding and explore what you would "like" to hear from her?
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