Nina, I am deeply sorry that you are being harassed by family members. No one should have to go through that.

People who I have in my phone address book on my cellphone show up when they call. If I am not sure about their mood I let it go to voicemail. If the voicemail is not good I save it and listen to it some other time or delete it.

If they keep calling I turn my phone off. If they are getting to me I pay the money to block their number. I hope it does not have to go this far.

I am sorry you are 54 and dealing with people's stuff. I am older and still dealing with it. That does not seem to go away but my focus on helping others takes me out of that world of abuse into a world of hope and empathy.

It is like being in the chat room and everyone hears me and empathizes. I remember that and it helps me avoid seeking an escape. I don't want to miss all the goodness because of the stuff that people keep sending me that is upsetting.

I would think about ways to not aggravate family members. If that is not possible think about ways to distance yourself from them mentally. They are angry people that need help. Feel sorry for them. Compassion for others even our harassers is a road to recovery. What they do is not right but not reacting is our saving grace.