Is there anyone that you can talk to? It seems to me that on top of her depression, your g/f is addicted to Vicodin. She may need to be put in a treatment facility to get the drug out of her system and then be treated for depression.

This is certainly not your fault and there is only so much that you can do. Your g/f sounds like she is addicted and this is totally skewing her thinking. So you cannot internalize her rage. This is not a moral judgment on her. This is just how addiction works. Plenty of wonderful people are recovering addicts or dealing with depression. It's the disease and not the person who is at fault. I would try to look at it this way and start dealing with the disease. It makes it less emotionally volatile for you.

I don't know what resources are available where you are but you must seek them out. Continuing this way is not helping you or her. There has to be some professional intervention. Can you talk to anyone -- a mental health professional to see what your options are? It seems to me that you need more than encouragement. You need to get some real facts and make some tough decisions or else both of you will be out on the streets. How are you going to help her or yourself then? Share this with someone that can offer some real-life support for you. Don't feel bad or ashamed that you cannot "solve" this problem. You are not a trained mental health professional, which is what your g/f needs. She may tell you that all she needs is your love, support and money to get more Vicodin -- that way she just keeps her addiction going but she really needs the intervention of a mental health professional for it to stop and she can't see this in her present state. I know that it may be hard to reach out for help but please put your whatever feelings are keeping you from doing this aside for your own sake and for hers.