By the way, my sister was a bully to me and told lies to people at school about me bullying her... so if that isn't abuse... She even convinced me that family members hated me, so I didn't get to have relationships with them. She was vindictive and manipulative. Just because she was that way because of our mother does not mean that she did not abuse anyone. My younger sister had it worse... she physically abused her... sent her to the emergency room once... so. Saying that she isn't responsible for abuse is like saying that a narcissist isn't responsible for manipulating and abusing their children because their own parents made them that way.