I wouldn't necessarily write this guy off for the sole reason that he has a child but many people here have good points. In a situation where someone has a child that should not rule them out but... the fact that the child is so young and he's saying he is no longer with the mother, speaks volumes to his commitment level. Even in a difficult situation with a partner, marriage or otherwise, a new child at the very least is the focus of attention for a time. the fact that he so quickly has ended it with her even in spite of that fact is at the very least a huge warning flag.

The way that he is saying he is trying for custody is kind of odd and I question his statement and motives if it's true. First I wonder if he's really trying to do so, since he's busy dating rather than focusing on his new baby. It's a contradiction that he's as concerned as he is about finding another mate yet he frames himself as a father that cares enough to want to have custody of his child. something doesn't sit well with me on that. I have teen children. I have been 4 yrs separated from my wife and although at times I've been interested in having a mate, it has never been in spite of my responsibility to my children. (I have been taking care of the boys pretty much full time this entire time). What I'm saying is I have not actively pursued or seriously considered being in a relationship because in my mind, my kids are very important. Even more so when I was first separated and learning how to be a single dad!

Best case scenario, this is a good guy that means what he is saying, but even then, truthfully, at 20 something do you want the challenges that he will carry even in the best of situations?