The way I always approach it is that I admit to myself that I have feelings or whatever and I don't know what to do with them or how to cope with them or whatever. Then I explain it to my therapist in the same way as if I was going to a regular doctor or mechanic. I can't get help if I don't explain the problem.

If you had a lump growing on the side of your neck, would you tell your doctor about it? If your engine was making a weird sound would you tell the mechanic about it? Those aren't embarrassing situations so there's no reason that not understanding or being able to deal with feelings should be any different.

And to be honest, I wish I got some good homework from my therapist. Nothing ever gets resolved, just talked about it. Some good homework should help you work through things.