Yes that ^^^^^ is what I wanted to say, but I'll try not to repeat it all.


Sometimes parents screw up with the eldest and try to avoid those mistakes later, and sometimes children are treated differently based on their strengths, weaknesses and personalities.


Buuuut, other times, parents are just a.s.s.holes.


You're a better judge of which category yours fall into. Better yet, talk to them, I know what I've written because my sisters said it to their eldest daughters