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My spouse tell me to talk to him when I am upset or irritated and then turns around to tell me why I shouldn't feel the way that I do.
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That's called INVALIDATING your feelings. As nicoleflynn said,
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Feelings aren't right or wrong.....they simply ARE.
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You have a right to feel the way you do about things & to express yourself. Yes, sometimes after we think about our feelings later on, we may see how we could have felt differently.
He also has a right to his feelings & to express himself but he needs to learn how to do it in a way that is not hurtful to you or put you down with his expression of your feelings or use his feelings to invalidate yours.......
Sure, feelings are going to be different but like you expressed your feelings in a quiet, respectful way, he needs to better learn how to express his feelings also in a more respectful way toward you & also not use his feelings to invalidate yours.