I think right now I'm dating someone who springs for dinner, but the restaurants are pretty crappy and we don't want to see the same movies.

The lying in bed due to overwhelm = depression thing - I do that. I am just this year starting to wonder if the cause isn't actually migraine headaches. That sounds sort of stupid, like how can you not realize you have a headache, but I am really hooked on this theory for my situation. And, yeah, it's pretty hard to get stuff done when it happens!

I agree that labeling it 'depression' really isn't that helpful. It just makes it more depressing, somehow. Isn't it really the human condition? Don't we all do this, let crummy situation sort of persist even though we know better and could change some aspects of the situation ourselves?

With your job, probably nothing is going to look better on paper. Something doesn't really need to look better for you to apply, does it? It's hard enough to tell through the interviews that a place is 'right' or not - trying to judge it through a job description is impossible.

I know that you are not sure you even want to be doing what you are doing, which just makes it worse, but having a more tolerable job may give you more energy and enthusiasm to pursue something else. Or the interview may just make you appreciate what you have even more.

My problem is that I really, really, really don't want to do this kind of work. It involves being on call 24/7. I don't want that. Unfortunately, the easiest path to profitability for me is ... this kind of work.

I need to go back to my software product... but this morning I get to drive an hour away to plug something in. And the AC in my car doesn't work and it's very hot.

Oh, and you aren't your father. You are way more responsible and resourceful. If you did quit your job, you'd find freelance work or some way of paying your bills.