Besides that it isn't about them or to manipulate them or something like that, I'd like them to know that there are healthy reasons for it, even if the coping method is not ideal - it does serve a healthy function.
I can't remember what I've said when I tried to answer this question before. Sorry if I'm just repeating myself over and over.
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“We should always pray for help, but we should always listen for inspiration and impression to proceed in ways different from those we may have thought of.”
– John H. Groberg
