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Originally Posted by arundelle
What helps is to stay calm. If he's wasting time worrying how you're reacting instead of working on himself, it will just take all the longer.
Don't go away. Don't be clingy, but don't abandon him, even if he wants you to. Let him know when you're thinking of him. Keep him updated on what's going on in your life, in very short bits, like sound clips. And let him know that you don't expect him to respond, that's not the point of you keeping him updated, that the point is that you want to tell him something, so you are. It helps a lot for a depressed person to know you aren't just sitting around pining for them, it takes that guilt away.
Try to accept without getting the whole scoop. If you dig, he will run further. Trust what he's saying. It probably killed him to tell you the truth, so that shows a lot of love and respect. Let him know you appreciate him telling you what's happening rather than just going away, and that you'll be there.
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It does not always go away quickly. It's also very hard to "pretend" everything is alright so not to worry others. When I was going through a down period.. I had a couple friends call & try to get me to do something to cheer me up... I had to tell them that I appreciate their concern but I just cannot right now. Thank you for thinking of me (This might not come across well..but I could not go do something with them to make them feel better).
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“A person is also mentally weak by the quantity of time he spends to sneak peek into others lives to devalue and degrade the quality of his own life.” Anuj Somany
“Psychotherapy works by going deep into the brain and its neurons and changing their structure by turning on the right genes. The talking cure works by "talking to neurons," and that an effective psychotherapist or psychoanalyst is a "microsurgeon of the mind" who helps patients make needed alterations in neuronal networks.” Norman Doidge
Last edited by brainhi; May 27, 2015 at 04:41 PM.
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