Brainhi, I can see that and I definitely do not need them to do something for me.I do not need them to pretend, just to be what they are at that point in time. I just needed to know more of what is most supportive and what to not do. If a single text to touch base or dropping off dinner at the door with no expectation of interaction is best. Just to be a support system that is there when then need it and to not be a burden otherwise.

Thanks for all the info!