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Originally Posted by buzz bee
Im sorry this is a lump in your marriage.  I think sex is very important in a marriage. Its a connection like no other. God wants this in your marriage.
1 Corinthians 2-6
2-6 Certainly—but only within a certain context. It’s good for a man to have a wife, and for a woman to have a husband. Sexual drives are strong, but marriage is strong enough to contain them and provide for a balanced and fulfilling sexual life in a world of sexual disorder. The marriage bed must be a place of mutuality—the husband seeking to satisfy his wife, the wife seeking to satisfy her husband. Marriage is not a place to “stand up for your rights.” Marriage is a decision to serve the other, whether in bed or out. Abstaining from sex is permissible for a period of time if you both agree to it, and if it’s for the purposes of prayer and fasting—but only for such times. Then come back together again. Satan has an ingenious way of tempting us when we least expect it. I’m not, understand, commanding these periods of abstinence—only providing my best counsel if you should choose them. |
I know this is one of the older responses, but I wholeheartedly disagree with this sentiment. It's perfectly okay to abstain from sex in a marriage, since marriage isn't necessarily about sex. I know successful queer/asexual/straight/whatever couples who don't have sex and are perfectly fine with it. It has absolutely nothing to do with a satanic force.
Marriage is absolutely a place to "stand up for your rights." Both of you need to do what is best for yourselves. If that means staying together, then that's great. If that means getting a divorce and working on building a platonic friendship, then that's okay, too. Sometimes the most loving thing we can do for a partner is to let them go.
I hope things become easier in the future.