I just read this post because I have a ton of fears and insecurities with my relationship. I know and agree with you that yes being anxious and insecure drives men away and makes them uncomfortable but I am so tired of pretending like everything is fine and trying acting calm,cool, and relaxed meanwhile Im going nuts. I am insecure with the relationship, I have things that I want to know but aren't really rational questions, it wouldn't matter who it was!!! The damage has already been done and Im almost positive that I cant fix it alone.

I dont want to drive him away, If I must keep everything Im feeling to myself then Id rather be alone. He doesn't ask about anything, I have a hard time bringing anything up....

I dont know what to do.......What do you think?