Rose, of course he really wants you now that he can't have you. That's human nature. The people here have no hidden agendas, we will just go on about our lives if you don't listen to us. We are just telling you what our life experiences have taught us and you have to be willing to take that at face value. Very hard, especially when he is probably very charming and you, deep down, think you have the power to change him.

Well, you don't and you won't. Please don't spend 1 year, 5 years, 35 years with someone who couldn't even be honest with you in the first month you met. He is lacking character. That will show up later in every phase of your relationship. There really are good men out there. Take time and find one, it's the rest of your life we're talking about here.

I get the part about some obstacle popping up just when you think you've met one that likes you. I've got to ask if you know why you choose who you choose? I should have had therapy years ago to help me in choosing a partner. I was always looking for the Dad I never had, a-hole that he was. IMHO screwed up parental relationships have to be dealt with before you will attract and choose wisely.