i am glad you left when you did, but perhaps googling therapists is not always helpful.

i had a therapeutic (not) relationship with a therapist who wasn't. What i mean is that the guy was supposed to do basic counselling at my school then hand me off to a real therapist... he had no real training. But i am guessing he had been in therapy himself or was reaidng about it or something and decided he could do it... because he took me on as a therapy client/patient/whatever. It was free and i had zero idea what he was doing.. none. He never said this is therapy or anything, he just kept seeing me every second week to talk... but he started actively digging into my past, etc. He talked about it taking a year or more. i became a basket case at some point and he discovered he had no idea what to do with what he dug up... pure "insight" for me didn't help and made things worse. Evenutally his schedule became "too busy" and it ended with me hanging.

Long story but the point i am getting to is that i became so very deeply attached and he knew it. He had no idea what to do about it. We never talked about it and i believed i was in love with him. How would i know differently? i was almost obssessed. And it lasted more than 10yrs. How does that reflect on the two year rule?

Can true love ever develop when the possibility for transference/countertransference is so strong? Even Carl Jung was involved with a patient. There are many stories out there of relationships which have gone well, and those that have not. How can an association or board or anyone really judge what love can or cannot be?